In martial arts, the triangle of support is made up of parents, school teacher and martial arts instructor. This means that whatever happens in the life of your child, that event will be supported by the other two corners of the triangle. This may be in the form of praise of an achievement, or an awareness of the consequences of a mistake.
Most importantly it means the student knows that we have his or her back. When life serves up an adverse situation, the student knows three people are there for support.
He directs us to the importance of a child's peer group as a guide to directing behaviour. The power of a leadership group in a martial arts academy - or any team for that matter - is the way to deeply affect behaviour.
The full article entitled, "The Culture Of Childhood: We've Almost Destroyed It" by Peter Gray PhD, is here.
But let's get back to the aim of creating kids that are ready to show the grit needed in a challenging and changing world. How do we do it?
The answer is by finding an acceptable role model that kids want to follow.
Or, we can just build one in a Leadership Team.
The top coaches in the world are idolised by their players and are highly paid. One of these men is Mike Krzyzewski of Duke University Basketball team fame. He was named "America's Best Coach" by Time magazine and CNN. His method is well worth reading and can be found by reading the book, “Beyond Basketball: Coach K’s Keywords For Success.”
In effect, 'Coach K' as his players call him, has a solid focus on character development THRU basketball. Some of his players turned out pretty well. You may have heard of some of them ... like Michael Jordan for example.
So, let's finish with a quote from Coach K. It will give you the focus to lead - really lead - and make a difference. What you do might look like martial arts training, but what you are really doing can have a far greater effect that the simple act of self defence.