The truth is, no they don't.
Most schools DEMONSTRATE these qualities but they don't TEACH how a student can take their real life problems and transform them into real life successes.
A beginner student sees the discipline and self-control of a higher grade on the dojo floor. He wishes for that self control in his own life. Problem is, the next day he is confronted with the same problems that led him to the study of Martial Arts in the first place.
He or she faces:
- The same obnoxious kid in year nine that calls him a pussy every time their paths cross.
– That group of girls that giggle every time she walks past them.
As martial arts instructors, we demonstrate skills with ease. We clearly articulate how martial arts skills can be gained. But when it comes to teaching how to deal with the frustrations of life, we fall flat on our face. The reason is that we don't have a firm grasp of how to deal with common human weaknesses ourselves. How can you teach something you don't know?
First, some background...
The numbers of the dysfunctional families has skyrocketed in the last few decades. Kids have parents on drugs, parents in jail, parents with personalities out of control. These parents teach discipline, self control and fortitude but they don't demonstrate it. Kids follow what they see. A child needs both instruction and a model to follow.
Now, back to my point...
So your school demonstrates these qualities but needs help to teach them? The first place to start with is yourself. To truly teach anything you must have mastered it yourself. Mastering a roundhouse kick takes a good coach, good advice and plenty of practice. The coach understands how the roundhouse kick works and has walked the path to mastery herself.
The good coach also has taken a long hard look in the mirror and dealt with her own character flaws.
Only then can she lead a student from despair to delight.
From distraction to determination.
From failure to fortitude.
Being a good coach starts with a mirror.